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Reacting To Negative Comments

YOU LOOK DIGUSTING


I re-watched My Pale Skin's 'You Look Disgusting Video' the other day, and although it made me cry, it also sparked up anger. Anger that people think they have the right to say stuff like that to people, and anger that we all allow these stupid comments to affect us so badly. As my life is all over social media, you would think I'd accept the fact I'm more likely to get negative comments. But, unfortunately I'm a human, and it's easier said than done. In fact, my recent negative comment wasn't in fact anything to do with my blog/ twitter etc. It was purely aimed at my appearance. I was told I was 'disgusting and vile' and I was a 'downgrade'. I cried for about 10 minutes, then got angry, then cried again. Although I say it's fine, and the person is just hurt, it still hurts me to this day. 

I ask myself, why the fuck am I getting so upset over some horrible person, who is just saying these things to upset me, and who I will never ever meet?  I honestly don't know. We're all guilty of doing it. I guess as a society, we're so focused on appearance, so when someone comments negatively on your appearance, you literally can't get it out of your head.  Especially with magazines and films/tv photoshopping all of our favourite celebs bodies and faces, and with all the photo editing apps out there (guilty), we feel like we need to look like the photos do. Well, it's not realistic, and we need to realise this! We are all beautiful in our own way, no matter what we look like, how much we weigh, how bad our skin is, or how bad our teeth are.

We shouldn't listen to negative comments, as that means they have won. I never thought at the age of 21, someone would be so vile. I was used to mean comments when I was 10-15, as we were young, school is bitchy. But I'm 21 and in a full-time job, yet I'm still getting comments saying I'm 'disgusting'?! I just think people should think before they speak (or type). As they have no idea what issues that person is dealing with. They could be (and I am), dealing with several mental health issues, and also physical illnesses. Yes, one bitchy comment might seem like nothing to you, but to the person that's receiving it, it could seriously effect them.

Just because you're hurting and insecure, doesn't give you the right to make other people feel insecure.  RANT OVER.




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  1. Negativity is something some people just can't get away from and I honestly feel sorry for the people who feel they need to inflict negativity onto others, it's always out of jealousy trust me! As much as it can effect you, blocking it all out works so well, you're opinion is the only one that matters, if you love yourself don't let anyone change it.

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  2. You rant away lovely, your feelings are completely justified! No one should have the right to say those things about another human being, even if they are struggling too! Don't be too hard on yourself though lovely, you are only human and your reaction is completely normal, try not to let comments like that get the better of you xx


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  3. It is honestly a shame that there is so much negativity online and I don't understand why people would leave such nasty comments. And yes, we are all beautiful in our own way and don't worry, I am very sure this person didn't sit thinking you were actually ugly - comments like these are simply made to hurt someone because just like you said, appearance and body image are considered very important nowadays. I think it's important to keep in mind that no good or strong person would ever comment sth like that. xx

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  4. As if someone actually said that about you!!! I haven't had any negative comments but I do read comments and people are just nasty! I don't understand why people think they have the right either, if you wouldn't say it to someone's face, why say it in a comment. People feel the security of hiding behind their computer screens.

    They can't be happy with themselves if they feel the need to be nasty to others - therefore, they aren't worth the tears.

    I always think like you, they don't know what people are dealing with in their own lives in the same way we don't know what they're dealing with. Remember in school, when people used to say that bullies were once bullied themselves. These types of bullies are clearly feeling low about themselves in order to want to bring someone else down.

    No matter what, you are beautiful and you are a beautiful person - your loving, caring and smart and those around you, those who mean something to you, know that! xxx

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